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dumbndrippy:

sleepytimeslut:

sleepytimeslut:

I figured out that when I start getting fussy it helps to distract myself with something else. And I find porn very distracting. So instead of whining to my girlfriend that I’m feeling neglected, or obsessing over who she might be talking to when I’m not around, I look at porn! Perfect…

Yesterday I was thinking of stopping before I came. I’m usually very ahh… results-oriented 🙂 But I got close, and then made myself stop and get up and do something else. Then later I was getting horny at work, so I went in the bathroom… But I didn’t get off, just edged for a while.

I guess I was thinking that if I can be thinking about sex all the time, distracted by my throbbing clit kind of thing, I wouldn’t have time – or brain cells – to think about other stuff. It didn’t work, though.

I read about girls edging for days and making themselves dumb and submissive to their partners, and I kinda want to get into that headspace – submissive, eager to please, happy for any attention she’ll give me. Unworthy of more, perhaps. I thought that might help. I don’t know.

And maybe it would, if I did it for a week. All I know is, it just put me on edge, made me irritable – and I was afraid it was just making me MORE needy! Which would be a mistake. So I came, hard, before going home, and that put me in such a good mood I let her do whatever she wanted last night without my fussing, and we ended up having a real nice evening together.

And this morning, I just came, in our bed alone after she left for work, and I’m feeling relaxed and content, and at peace, like I always do after a good orgasm. So now I’m thinking as long as I make sure to get off frequently, I can remain zen, and let her have her life while I have mine. I do like the idea of getting into a more subservient headspace sometimes, but maybe edging isn’t the way to do it. I like cumming too much.

What do you think?

Of course, to REALLY keep myself mellow, and just kinda loving everybody in the world, and like – “hey do your own thing, it’s cool, anybody wanna fuck my girlfriend…” – I think I need to cum like every 3 hours. Cuz I can be a possessive and insecure lil bitch… And that mellow buzz only lasts so long…

What do you guys think of orgasms vs edging? What helps me to not *think* so much? Or not *care* so much? Make me stupid, boys and girls… 😉 *giggle*

I can relate to a lot of these feelings. Especially because sometimes edging can put you in a pretty negative headspace if you don’t have the constant attention of the person your doing it for (or just the attention of someone).

However, I can’t help but think that you should probably talk to your girlfriend, because the only way you’re going to be calm about her having sex with other people is if you talk about it. Which I know is really difficult because I’ve been in some open relationships (and not so open relationships) where I was often feeling forgotten about but didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to lose the person.

Open communication 2k18. It sucks but it’s really important. I don’t know if that helps or not. I also don’t mean to be condescending at all but I’ve been in a similar situation where I didn’t talk about my feelings and it all fell apart. I would hate to see that happen to someone else.

That’s probably not the advice you wanted, but it’s here for anyone who wants it…