I’ve seen similar blogs, and they fill me with horror and disgust. So much of what some want to label “BDSM” is really just horrific abuse of vulnerable people.
I don’t receive a lot of praise or recognition in my job, day-to-day. This week, though, I had a huge performance review that lead to my supervisor saying the word “impressed” several times in one conversation.
For days leading up to this, I had told myself I didn’t really care how it went, I didn’t see anything to change in my work, really, so whatever happens will happen.
In actuality, though, I was holding on to this tension. I had one day of full on frustration and anger at everything that lead to Master ordering a bubble bath and included a stern reminder that I am a reflection of Him and I need to conduct myself thusly.
After this review, I told Him with tons of relief and just pure GLADNESS that I’d done well and everything she’d said in regards to my work and how I’m doing. His simple reply?
“That’s my girl.”
My friends, those three words were worth more than anything else in my world.
No matter what anyone else says, as long as I am His girl, everything else falls into place and my world is right.
God I hate this bullshit bad faith argument. The idea that me, the shmuck mechanic working hourly to support myself and the people I love, have the same amount of responsibility as a capitalist vampire getting even richer off dead labor, is inane and stupid.
You wanted to cum, right slut? You said it had been way too long and you couldn’t take it? Well, have a good night. I’ll be back to check on you after my date. Try not to pass out too soon, ok?
Okay but really, this is where safewords come in really handy. Discuss beforehand that if you really, really NEED to cum you will use a safeword, yellow, or red, or pineapple or whatever. And if you don’t say that, he’s to not let you.
I know that feels a bit forced but it’s actually a huge relief to a dom in training to have the certainty.
For bonus points he needs to tease you with it. Pretend he’s thinking about it, say things like maybe he’ll let you, suggest maybe he’ll ruin your orgasm instead.
But ultimately, let’s keep this black and white as a first exploration, you are NOT going to cum unless you safeword.
Once you both actually try that, and you both see how ridiculously hot it is, he’ll better understand why it’s a good thing for him to choose in the future.
If he adds to it that he’s ‘taking your orgasm’ and gets you to suck him off or fucks you, that’ll drive you completely bananas in the best way possible.
Also, get him reading this while you suck his cock:
Anon, I understand your desire for leadership, especially when times are tough and you feel adrift. I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but it might be better to set aside trying to force a D/s dynamic right now and instead focus on working on helping your daughter and yourself. Perhaps as things settle into a better rhythm, you can have a meta talk with your husband and decide how to proceed from there.
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