There is something so delicious about the twisted logic of pushing your buttons and then watching you get even wetter when I simultaneously mock-sympathy chide you for it and praise you for bring such a good, wet, horny toy for me.
Sure. You’re talking about polyamory, aka “polya” aka “poly.” There are a number of “poly people” among my Followers. Just be mindful that, while the idea of a poly relationship can be appealing, a lot of people run up on the rocks when dealing with the reality of it.
Hi, if I can weigh in?
I’m a married submissive in a polyamorous relationship. My husband and I are both madly in love with another man, and he also happens to be my Sir.
Open relationships are HARD. Harder than most. But theres so much overlap in the basics of Poly and D/s life that its unreal.
Like with D/s you have to do your research, constantly communicate, and hold yourself personally accountable at all times. But the kicker? Yeah you gotta let the walls down for more than one person, be emotionally available for your partners, and be completely honest at all times.
Those things? It can be hard enough to do with just one person, let alone multiple partners. Letting the walls down and getting comfortable with one person takes a lot of time, so be prepared to exercise a lot of patience. My Triad? We took every tiny step excruciatingly slow. It took months of talking and communicating and basic vanilla relationship foundation building for us to all really come together as a unit. And that was before things got remotely sexual.
My experiences in poly fidelity have been so fucking rewarding as a result of hard work, patience and open communication.
I have two men in my life that love and support me in my adventures. The three of us act like a tripod. We just found 3 pegs are more stable than 2. I have multiple perspectives on problems, lots of mental stimulation (great for my ADHD sub brain), the best cuddles, oh and I’d be lying if I said the sex wasn’t a bonus.
You might find you don’t want a triad, that you are instead looking to have multiple partners while maintaining your own autonomy. Which is also totally valid and fair. But the basics don’t ever change:
Always be open and honest about your needs and wants.
You cannot have a healthy relationship, of any kind, without constant communication.
So yes. Poly life can work in the D/s sphere. But you, and all of your partners, have to be honest about how much work they’re willing/able to put in, and then commit to that work.
Find some poly blogs on tumblr (I can’t think of any off the top of my head right now) and research research research.
What a silly thing to say, “No chance to stop her…” You don’t want her / me to stop. I don’t want to stop and my role is not to care about what you want, so it is not stopping anytime soon. Just take it like a good little slut. You’ve been going around flaunting that wet pussy of yours and now it’s getting what you want.
She will keep herself right on the edge of her orgasm the whole time.
As long as it takes him to cum, however long it takes, never stopping, only slowing down when she must, to keep herself from cumming.
She must continue even when he starts cumming in her convulsing pussy. It’s the hardest part, to keep edging herself as he cums and not cum herself. She must be so careful then to stay good, to not let his release topple her over that edge.
And then, when he pulls out of her, fully satisfied, only then is she allowed to stop her delicious torment.
I think what they’re getting at is that intense and ongoing communication is much more necessary in a D/s relationship. Vanilla couples can “drift,” for a week or a month or a decade, happy in a certain way, without there being intense and ongoing communication. But that level of communication is one of the most important foundations of a D/s relationship, and if allowed to “drift,” the whole structure collapses.
^^ right. It’s more necessary in D/s to have good communication, but that doesn’t mean D/s relationships always have better communication than vanilla ones. Meaning, it’s not that D/s relationships are superior or anything. I wholeheartedly think vanilla relationships can have communication just as good as a great D/s relationship. D/s just kinda naturally puts pressure on communication so we tend to focus on it a lot. If vanillas choose to put work into communicating they can create the same quality of communication.
Amazing points!!! I just want to add this. When vanilla couples fail at communication, it leads to hurt feelings, possibly the end of the relationship. When D/s fails to communicate, it causes both those, but also, it can potentially lead to serious bodily injury or even death. Communication is for everyone’s safety as well as all the other reasons to communicate.
The money shot: “When vanilla couples fail at communication, it leads to hurt feelings, possibly the end of the relationship. When D/s fails to communicate, it causes both those, but also, it can potentially lead to serious bodily injury or even death.” Exactly this. The stakes are much higher in D/s if communication is not on point, which is why there is so much emphasis on it.
1. He declines being called Sir, Master or any other grandiose title from the start. Until a relationship has been agreed he knows he’s a human being just like you, on the same level as you. He will owe you that respect and courtesy from the beginning. He declines being called ego-inflating names unless a dynamic has been explicitly agreed by both parties.
2. He looks after your interests. He will be on your side and will want you to be fulfilled in a relationship. He will be prepared to walk away from a relationship, if he believes your needs will be better met by somebody else. In fact he will be more than happy to introduce you to somebody else who will meet your needs better than him, even if that means he will lose you.
3. He doesn’t criticise other people, particularly other doms, behind their backs. He doesn’t feel threatened by other doms and doesn’t see them as competition. He doesn’t belittle or talk bad about other doms or tries to eliminate or undermine “competitors”.
4. He doesn’t try to dominate the conversation or gratuitously lead a group onto something just to prove to everyone and himself how domly he is. He will let other people have their say, without trying to hoard the limelight. He is a true team player who puts the needs and interests of the group before himself. He is interested in the team winning, not him winning.
5. He doesn’t prey on the vulnerable. He doesn’t hang around the entrance of munches or clubs looking for “fresh meat”. He doesn’t try to take advantage of inexperienced submissives and use their lack of knowledge to his advantage. On the contrary, he will protect those new and vulnerable and do what he can to guide them in the right direction.
6. He doesn’t instigate politics, bitching and division between camps. He is not prepared to partake in them and will try to minimise conflict whenever possible. He has a conciliatory tone and tries to build bridges, not burn them, whilst still defending what is right.
7. He’s approachable. He’s friendly and welcoming and accepts everybody as they are. He keeps his ego in check and doesn’t carry himself with a swagger or in a threatening or arrogant manner. He’s not in possession of the truth. He knows an überdom is quite the opposite of a true dom.
8. He admits to his mistakes. He’s happy to say sorry. He knows that being a dom doesn’t mean he’s perfect. He will own up to his errors and will make reparation whenever possible. If he makes a mistake during play he’ll apologise sincerely and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
9. He’s comfortable with a sub who is more intelligent, skilled and capable than him. He knows that being a dom doesn’t mean he has to be the best at everything. He’s quite happy to take instruction from her submissive and let her teach him what he doesn’t know. As an example, he’s happy to take directions from her when he’s driving.
10. He has nothing to prove. He’s comfortable in his own skin and doesn’t need to prove to anybody how “dominant” he is. He doesn’t try to live up to some expectation of what a dom should be. He’s confident and sure of himself and is untroubled by others disagreeing with him and having a different approach to dominance than his. He knows who he is and he doesn’t need to justify himself to anybody.
11. He doesn’t take liberties. He will not boss around a person just because she’s submissive. Nor will he grope her either. He will be clear, transparent and specific about how he wants to play, before anything happens. He will not take advantage of someone being in subspace and therefore more vulnerable. He is polite to waiters, clerks and those in serving professions.
12. He’s trustworthy. He has a strong sense of integrity, responsibility and compassion. He will stick to his agreements and fulfil his end of the bargain. He will tell the truth and behave with honesty, even if that means he loses out. He’s honourable and his word is his bond.
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