Month: August 2018

I was talking to him about it this afternoon and told him its something i would need to get used to and he said that i wont be able to because timing is off for us.

instructor144:

danipup:

instructor144:

That sounds like he is preparing to end it, yes. His reasons are his reasons, I suppose.

i’m sorry to the anon for this. it’s never easy. : /

i want to say something, and i understand that i wasn’t asked, but nevertheless, i’m compelled to. i read the preface ask to this one, and i just need to say that if the only reason you’re giving a partner something sexually/submissively, especially something you’ve always been “very hesitant” about, is because you’re afraid they are going to leave you and it might make them stay?

don’t. don’t compromise yourself that way. because for one thing, you’re dropping a hard limit for an unhealthy reason. and secondly, the reason you’re doing so is never going to keep someone sticking around if they’ve already decided to move on.

lastly, you run the risk of associating that act going forward with something that leaves a negative emotional mark on you, and oftentimes, that takes a lot of work to undo.

(just a penny’s worth of advice that can be taken or left as is, and my best vibes to the anon.)

cheers,

dani

^^^^

sadisticgames:

“Treat me like a dog.” “Treat me like a child.” “Treat me like a whore.”

Humiliation. Objectification. Verbally Degrading.

It is such a mind fuck, so incredibly hot for so many people. 

But it is also such a fine line to walk. 

How does a Dominant know when they have gone too far? 

How does a submissive know when they are being catered to, or when they are being used?

Communication. This is a kink that you really have to trust your partner enough to be completely honest with them. 

If a sub is talking to a Dominant and that Dominant has a fetish for making a girl into a pig, and the sub has had weight issues in their past, that is something that needs to be spoken about. 

If a sub identifies more as a little, but the Dominant partner is uncomfortable because of things that happened in their personal past, they need to communicate that. 

I have seen and heard about many humiliation plays blowing up simply because someone was trying to power through a scene that they were in fact uncomfortable with but wanted to please their partner. 

This is a responsibility for both partners. If you are uncomfortable, let your partner know. 

On the flip side, be honest about your desires as well. 

If you want to be the little bitch in heat, bent over the fence in the back yard, then say so. 

If you want to be the little, being punished for getting into the cookies, then let your partner know. 

If you want to be the slut, pulling up your skirt in the parking lot for a ride, write it out in detail and send it to your partner. 

your fantasies are not yours alone, they are shared by many, I assure you. 

So as always, communicate, be honest, be safe, and have fun.