writingdirty:

littles-are-lovely:

ireallyhateddlg:

just because you arent a pedophile doesnt mean your kink is immediately okay.

dd/lg is meant to represent a father and his daughter being in a sexual relationship. that is not only pedophilia, but it is also… drumroll please…

INCEST!!!

please stop fetishizing traumatic events. thank you very much and have a lovely day!! 💗💗💗💗

CG/L isn’t based around father/daughter role play, otherwise CG/L simply wouldn’t exist, and people would just adopt the different label and be part of the other community.

But because CG/L has nothing to do with incest, its wrong to categorize our kink that way. If partners choose to incorporate incest play into their CG/L relationship, that’s their decision, but it does not mean that CG/L is based around that type of role play.

Also, the “pedophilia” trope doesn’t work when both partners are consenting adults, who aren’t even trying to recreate a father/daughter relationship to begin with. Oh, and by claiming all CG/L relationships are DD/LG based, you are excluding all other gender variations of CG/L relationships. If you can’t even refer to the community properly, it’s a fair guess to say that you have a very inaccurate view of our community.

People are honestly just taking the “daddy” title too seriously, hardly anybody actually views their caregiver as an actual parent, we just refer to them as “mommy”/“daddy”/etc as a term of endearment, and it also plays into the dom/sub aspect of the relationship.

Here’s the thing about CG/L not being father/daughter role play: sometimes it totally is. A lot of time it is or at least touches on that kind of roleplaying at times or in ways.

Just like people I know role play being enslaved to someone else. Just like people I know role play non-consentual sex. Or torture. Or brainwashing. Or kidnapping. People play with big scary things in consensual and very much not real ways. Just like when people sit around a table and pretend to be knights and wizards or get up on stage and pretend to be murderers and kings. Just like people who make television shows about cannibals for general entertainment. Which one of these traumatic experiences it is okay to role play and which isn’t?

Stop fetishizing traumatic events? Talk to people in the BDSM scene or any kink scene about that and you will find lots of people who use kink to deal with trauma in all sorts of ways and it is often incredibly helpful for them. You will also find people who just like playing with taboo ideas because they are full of complicated emotions and put our heads in different spaces.

I absolutely understand how someone who doesn’t contextualize or process trauma in those ways could see consensual role play in a bad light, but maybe ask people in the scene about it. Maybe read about it.

onlyseventhoughts:

somedude24:

conversationvonhearts:

Me: *nuzzle your nose* who is a handsome boy? Hmm? Who is my good boy? Are you my sweet boy?

Sub: *currently unable to speak or move due to being roped down to a mattress with a vibrating egg in their bum and me pumping a flesh light on their cock as they incoherently moan*

My goodness 😍

Um. Yes.

female-orgasm-denial:

So nice to hear from a switchy couple! Best of both worlds.

I’d be cautious with this one though, definitely one to talk through and test first.

I’m not recommending it, but if you both want to try it, here’s how to safely try superglue infibulation (that’s the proper term although it’s mostly used for the awful surgical FGM procedure).

Firstly you want to get some medical super glue which is actually designed for skin. Standard superglue (cyanoacrylate is the chemical term) isn’t great for skin as it releases some heat and formaldehyde when curing.

Medical super glue is formulated to minimise these so a better bet.

Surgiseal and Dermabond are the two big brands, but it’s easier to buy the veterinary version, Vetbond which is similar stuff.

To remove it you use acetone, which many nail polish removers contain (check the ingredients). This shit stings like a bitch, and is usually the painful part of the process. Otherwise as skin cells naturally regenerate the glue will unstick and you can wash it off after a few hours to a few days depending how much you used.

The best way to test that the acetone works is put a drop on a finger and let it dry, then use the acetone to melt and remove it. Once you’ve done that, try glueing two fingers together (like a splint) and see how much you need and how you apply the acetone to remove that (little wipes as it gently opens).

Finally, rub a bit of the acetone over your outer labia so you know what it’s going to be like to remove it and check against any bad reaction. Apply it using a cotton wool ball or soft cloth – don’t ever pour it on.

When it comes to the kinky use of this, you want to make sure you’re all smooth and hairless down there. You only want to be sticking the very outer labia together as inner labia are way too sensitive for this, so if you have larger ones, just make sure they are neatly tucked in and don’t get glue on them. It should all look very neat when done.

Use as little as you can at first, you’ll find it unsticks pretty quickly (minutes to an hour or two at most), a scrub in the shower will undo it in most cases (but you’ll need the acetone to get the remnants off).

Once you’ve explored that, try using a bit more to make it last longer and feel more secure – it’ll still come apart with acetone but if you’re actually having sex with this done it can hurt if it starts to unstick, so you’re actually better off doing it properly then removing it properly with acetone.

The big issue once it’s done is obviously peeing. It still comes out but just dribbles down inside and is pretty icky so be careful with that. You really need a shower or bidet wash to get clean after you pee, which is a real pain.

Here’s an example a follower sent me that’s been very neatly done.

https://female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com/post/161435407553/i-just-couldnt-not-share-this-one-with-you-its

And another I found: https://degradations-pain.tumblr.com/post/158449283765/glue-infibulation-just-a-reminder-that-youre

Have fun, and be safe!

James

forte7:

harmonyltd:

your-naked-magic-oh-dear-lord:

henriksaves:

boobsandbravado:

marrymejasonsegel:

marrymejasonsegel:

marrymejasonsegel:

Straight dudes are their own worst enemies when it comes to getting laid.

Like, i know so many girls who are down for something more casual and who actually have really low standards that boil down to “treat me like a person, not a talking fleshlight”. And dudes refuse to even meet those standards!

Like, you know how many times I’ve been talking to a guy and I’ve already decided that when we hang out I’d down to mess around, only for the guy to start talking super graphically or send me a picture of his dick–and then literally all desire I had for him went out the windows.

Like dudes are so obsessed with sex that theyre scaring almost-certain sex partners away because they refuse to act like human beings capable of rational thought.

Bring thing this back to add an example:

I started talking to a guy on tinder.  He was funny, flirty and super nice even though he wasn’t really my type. Most importantly, he was completely respectful. He managed to let me know he thought I was attractive, and that he was interested in me, without ever saying anything gross, asking for pictures or asking for sex. We met up for drinks and talked for hours and I realized I was more attracted to him than I initially thought . Not only did I sleep with him on the first date, but I’ve hooked up with him multiple times after that. The first time, he didn’t make any assumptions. We hung out, started making out and then he asked me if I wanted to stay the night. That was it. He STILL has never asked me for a nude, or sent me some overtly sexual message or picture. 

But SOMEHOOOW I still want to have sex with him.

Conversely, I started talking to another guy on tinder today. On our FIRST conversation, he has mentioned my boobs 3 times, invited me over to “watch a movie” (he added the quotes, not me), suggested a fwb set up and just asked for nudes.

GUESS WHO ISN’T GONNA GET IN MY PANTS.

I try so hard to tell them.

Trash men are out here getting advice from other trash men so they don’t know how to act. 🙄

But… But why are they incapable of learning from bad experience after bad experience?

Because they find it easier to blame the women for it.

Shoulda been more of a warning sign when my ex thought a compliment counted as telling me that I had big boobs, really

I’ve had the boob “compliment” more times that I can remember. The person I am with now is one of the few who never assumed it would be okay to talk that way until I asked him to.