writingdirty:

littles-are-lovely:

ireallyhateddlg:

just because you arent a pedophile doesnt mean your kink is immediately okay.

dd/lg is meant to represent a father and his daughter being in a sexual relationship. that is not only pedophilia, but it is also… drumroll please…

INCEST!!!

please stop fetishizing traumatic events. thank you very much and have a lovely day!! 💗💗💗💗

CG/L isn’t based around father/daughter role play, otherwise CG/L simply wouldn’t exist, and people would just adopt the different label and be part of the other community.

But because CG/L has nothing to do with incest, its wrong to categorize our kink that way. If partners choose to incorporate incest play into their CG/L relationship, that’s their decision, but it does not mean that CG/L is based around that type of role play.

Also, the “pedophilia” trope doesn’t work when both partners are consenting adults, who aren’t even trying to recreate a father/daughter relationship to begin with. Oh, and by claiming all CG/L relationships are DD/LG based, you are excluding all other gender variations of CG/L relationships. If you can’t even refer to the community properly, it’s a fair guess to say that you have a very inaccurate view of our community.

People are honestly just taking the “daddy” title too seriously, hardly anybody actually views their caregiver as an actual parent, we just refer to them as “mommy”/“daddy”/etc as a term of endearment, and it also plays into the dom/sub aspect of the relationship.

Here’s the thing about CG/L not being father/daughter role play: sometimes it totally is. A lot of time it is or at least touches on that kind of roleplaying at times or in ways.

Just like people I know role play being enslaved to someone else. Just like people I know role play non-consentual sex. Or torture. Or brainwashing. Or kidnapping. People play with big scary things in consensual and very much not real ways. Just like when people sit around a table and pretend to be knights and wizards or get up on stage and pretend to be murderers and kings. Just like people who make television shows about cannibals for general entertainment. Which one of these traumatic experiences it is okay to role play and which isn’t?

Stop fetishizing traumatic events? Talk to people in the BDSM scene or any kink scene about that and you will find lots of people who use kink to deal with trauma in all sorts of ways and it is often incredibly helpful for them. You will also find people who just like playing with taboo ideas because they are full of complicated emotions and put our heads in different spaces.

I absolutely understand how someone who doesn’t contextualize or process trauma in those ways could see consensual role play in a bad light, but maybe ask people in the scene about it. Maybe read about it.