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Advice for New submissives by IronDuke

I wrote this ten years ago or so but it remains true…

Most men who claim to be Dominant are not. Many men who claim to be
Dominant are in fact ‘vanilla’, swingers, mentally disturbed, not very
bright or a mixture of these.

Don’t trust anyone who claims to be Dominant who fails to be both genuinely interested in you & to treat you with respect.

It is highly unlikely anyone aged under 25 is an experienced
Dominant. It is fairly unlikely anyone aged under 30 is an experienced
Dominant using Dominant in the D/s sense rather than just a Bdsm Top (and they are not the same thing).

Being submissive does not mean being stupid, or taking no
responsibility for yourself, especially when it comes to you finding a
good Dominant.

A man who does not know you & tells you to “Kneel
bitch/whore/slut”, or otherwise disrespects you, is most unlikely to be a
real Dominant.

Rude, loud, bullies are very unlikely to be real Dominants. Real Dominants respect themselves & others.

Most would be male ‘mentors’ merely want to get in your knickers. If you
feel a real need for a Dominant mentor you should find one who does not
want to fuck you & ask him better yet find an experienced submnissive, with no agenda, as a mentor.

A man who asks you to find other submissives for him, especially
early in a relationship, should cause you to ask yourself, is this what
you really want?

A real Dominant will care about & for you. If a man tells you a
Master/Dominant cannot really love his submissive/slave you should
get very suspicious.

Real Dominants do aftercare.

Use the resources available on FetLife and elsewhere on the net,
non-fiction books, local bdsm groups, etc to learn about techniques,
aftercare, safety. Don’t just rely on a new Dominant to know what to do,
because many of them will not.

Get to know a new Dominant before you play with him in private. Ask questions. Always meet a new Dominant for the
first time in a public place, know his name address, etc, & have a
safe call (look it up) set up. Also set up a safe call,with a reliable friend the first time, or two, you do agree to play. No real Dominant will object to this
& many will even suggest it to you.

Extreme breathplay probably kills more people than everything else in bdsm put together. Make yourself aware of the risks and don’t do it with anyone you do not totally trust.

Enjoy it, it is supposed to be fun.

ID

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unixslut:

If you’re a denial slut of any kind, be it long- or short-term, male or female, whatever… buy this stuff. I cannot possibly recommend it anymore highly.

Orajel is a topical ointment meant to go in your mouth (ie a mucus membrane) to deaden the feeling of a canker sore or a tooth ache. It is 20% benzocaine, which is the highest amount of benzocaine available over the counter. It’s meant to go into (ahem) watery places, and though it tastes a bit odd (yes, I did buy it for my mouth actually LOL), it doesn’t cause any pain at all.

The other night, I was playing with myself, getting dangerously close to orgasming. I was having a very difficult time pulling my hands away so that I could go to sleep. I was genuinely worried that I would frig myself in my sleep, and cum, because I was That Close. Then my eye ran across the little tube of orajel…

I squirted a bit onto my finger, about as much as I used on my tooth, and then reached down and rubbed it into my clit. I was braced for a burning sensation, or discomfort, but there was none. I was rubbing and it felt soooo good, and I was thinking, “Oh well, that didn’t work,” when it kicked in. It took about 30 to 45 seconds before the numbing truly took ahold, and I will say, it was a wickedly deep numbness.

I lay there in bed, still idly flicking my now-numb clit, contemplating the juices puddling under me and how fucking horny I was. I pressed down hard, thinking that perhaps that would bring back the yummy edginess, as it had in the past. Nope. Nothing. I tried using a vibrator. Nada. I used my best vibrator. Zip.

I went to the bathroom, and despite it feeling a bit odd because I couldn’t feel the top part of my vaginal area, I had no difficulties at all. Note to those doing this – if you have genital piercings, make sure they’re all where they ought to be – with this stuff rubbed in like I had it, I didn’t notice that my clithood piercing was poking out and twisted until I got upstairs. Luckily nothing was damaged, and I was able to just rearrange the hardware, but I can definitely see how that could be problematic if you weren’t paying attention.

After I went back upstairs, I putzed around for a few moments, then gave another experimental poke at my clit. Still no sensation at all. In fact, my juices had made the benzocaine spread around a bit, and so pretty much everything around the area was completely numb. It stayed that way for a long time (over an hour).

While I wasn’t feeling the physical horniness from direct stimulation, let me tell you, that was fucking amazingly wet-making. I was not one shred less horny because the tingling went away, and the “pressure” of unrelieved arousal certainly didn’t go away. If anything, I felt MORE pressure, more need to get relief, and the sure knowledge that there was no chance in hell I was going to.

Unf…

been searching for orajel related ideas thanks to lezlexi…